Finally! I finally got to talk to our son after missing his first three calls. If you are the mother, wife, grandmother, sister ,of a soldier, sailor airman or marine, you know what I am saying. Missing those calls are the worst! (men, I know you all miss your sons, but you do handle it differently)
I came home the first time from the grocery store to hear his voice on the answering machine “we’re here, doing fine, love ya all!” …I cried for an hour! I was glad he was fine, and where he needed to be, but I wanted that moment of real connection. Then it happened again! I cannot stay in the house for a whole year, but I was thinking about it! Finally he got through and I was home, Praise God! I could barely hear him for some reason, like a faint voice in the distance. He could hear us fine, but it sounded like we were talking on one of those phones we had as a kid, you know, the tin can with a string? Not that I’m complaining.
Speaking of phones, I got one this week, the ATT Go Phone, for my granddaughter and grandson. Their mom works, and I wanted my son to be able to get them if they are at daycare , with their nana, or wherever. So I got the phone, and now I don’t know if I buy the phone card for them, or for my son? The people who sold me the phone seem to need time to figure this out. If you have tried this for a deployed parent, could you let me know if it worked well? I’ll pass on the good and bad of it as we live it out so if you are having the same concerns we can figure it out together! The phone cards are only good for a limited time , 30 or 90 days depending on the amount on the card. If you buy a hundred dollar card it is good for a year, so that is the route I am going. Now I just have to hope that if it is the grandchildren that have the card, it isn’t used to call Disneyland or someone in Timbuktu.
I guess I am old fashioned, I would love letters that I could pull out and read, but that would of course be dependent on a son who would actually write one, so I need to rethink that. Writing has never been a favorite activity of his.
Families now can get a call once a week or more. This is wonderful in one way, and difficult in another. You are always in that limbo of missing calls, or wanting more. It makes me wonder about how that is for our troops too. Is it distracting to hear often from the home front about all the little trial life brings, and does it cause them to have their mind a bit more at home and less on the job at hand?
I struggle with the thought of those that get bad news, or hear complaints from home and are then left to digest that when they cannot do a thing about it. I think it is important for us at home to contemplate that.
Should we tell a deployed loved one every difficulty at home? I don’t think so. I think that we need to remember that they need to have their head in the game, and we need to help them with that.
In the old days everyone was part of it. “Loose lips sink ships” we were warned, and now the media nearly lays out our battle plans for the enemy. Children used to gather metal scraps while mom was Rosie the Riviter. Grandma tended the victory garden… and the country was at war.
Now we are here, but not as involved. Life goes forward, and short of those of us with a loved one in harms way, barely know we are at war. Kit up all of you! We are important in this fight too, send things to our troops, keep the home fires burning, pray for our service members and be proud of the United States of America, it is an extraordinary nation!