A Christmas Song that should not be sung.

December 8, 2009 | Categrory: loss

I found this song on a blog post. The writer, a young mother, questioning the wisdom of the 1st grade teacher who had asked the children to bring pictures of deployed parents to show while they sing this, as part of a Christmas program.
I would love to hear your take on this song. What kind of thinking is behind telling a child that Santa can deliver his/her deployed parent as a Christmas gift? I also take offense that the song suggests that Santa fullfill the prayer of the mother. My own personal opinion is this teacher may have an antimilitary bias, or that she knows nothing about children. The loss, that is the reality of deployment is cruelly played with here.

Bring Him Home Santa
Dear Santa, I need to change my Christmas list
There’s one big thing I missed
You see my Daddy’s working far away from here
And I know Santa, I asked for a Barbie doll
And a brand new soccer ball
But I’d trade it all, for just one gift this year…

Bring him home Santa, bring him home to mom and me
Let us wake up Christmas morning, and find him standing by our tree
You can pick him up on your way, he could ride there in your sleigh
Don’t make him spend Christmas all alone
Bring him home

And Santa, here’s a picture that I drew
Of him in his dress blues
Mama says our country needs him over there
And you know Santa, this whole year I’ve been good
And I was hopin’ that would
Do all you could to answer her prayer…

Bring him home Santa, bring him home to mom and me
Let us wake up Christmas morning, and find him standing by our tree
You can pick him up on your way, he could ride there in your sleigh
Don’t make him spend Christmas all alone
Bring him home

Bring him home
Bring him home
Bring him home

The mother asked if it was too much for people to have a little sensitivity for Military Families during the holidays…I would have to keep my little one home from this one.

3 Responses to “A Christmas Song that should not be sung.”

  1. Hmmm…I have to agree. I don’t think they’re considering the well-being of the child with that song.

    It’s a hurtful thing to have their Daddy gone, and then to put them on display and sing that song? And to what end…to build up false hopes that their Daddy might actually come home when he isn’t able to? Not a good thing at all. I wouldn’t want my kids to be a part of that program.

  2. As the mom of a 1st grader with a deployed Dad, I would be horrified at this. The song is sweet and I have nothing against it as a way to make adults remember the sacrifices of our soldiers and their children but it is cruel to give this age child the idea that Santa can do this. My child would believe it. And now the single parents at home have to deal with it when it doesn’t come true. I would immediately ask that this not happen with the teacher, counselor and principal. There are many lovely patriotic songs these children can sing to honor their parents who are serving. I hope the teacher’s heart was in the right place, even if it is in the incredibly misguided way of those not experiencing deployments firsthand. Of course if the kids have learned the song the damage is already done.

  3. I read the song and the rewrite. yes, this is incredibly horrible. To suggest to children that Santa can bring their daddy home. Or that they should ask for it. I remember the year my husband was deployed. Santa was on a local radio station. My then 5 year old asked to call in. She got through, and asked Santa to take Daddy a bible in Iraq. She understood what would comfort him and that he needed to be there. This teacher may have been well intentioned, but her love is cruel. The rewrite of the song is spot on. Parents have a difficult enough time with deployment to have to deal with unrealistic fantasies encouraged by a teacher’s song.