New Book on the Horizon!

January 24, 2009

Well, we have a new book in the wings! It is called We Serve Too!2 A Child’s Reunion Book. We are very excited about this one!

In it , we address the difficulities military families face when a parent has been deployed and spent long months away from home. It is a story of the joy of reunion, and the changes that have to take place as a family member is brought back into the fold. It is also about the resiliency of the military family.

We believe military families will see themselves in this book, and will be encouraged to address the issues openly with the same family they met in We Serve Too! A Child’s Deployment Book.

I’ll keep you up on the news as we go to print and get the logistics of publishing finished! We are thrilled with the people who have offered to write the “blurbs” on the back of the book, and with the support we have gotten from the military community! We can’t wait to unveil this latest book in the We Serve Too! series!

Lifes little milestones

January 19, 2009

Today my grandaughter has lost her first tooth. This is of course brings excitement in the life of a child, as it is a right of passage. People who lose a tooth are well on the way to grownup teeth, and so it is just so cool!

One of the blessings of the information age is that her father who is in Iraq, can share these photos the same day. So, as much as technology causes me a headache, today I am thankful for the ability to share this milestone of Life!

Always a Soldiers Mom…wherever we are

January 13, 2009

I recently have been reading the blogs of other mothers with sons at war. It doesn’t matter what war they are engaged in or what part of the world they are from, we share a common bond.

Mothers are not designed to send children into places that they may be hurt or killed. We learn to let go, to live in faith, and to send cookies in boxes. We share a love that pulls hard at our hearts, and occasionally thoughts of “what if…” which can only be silenced by the fact that we are not in control, but God is.

Mothers with children in a war zone, understand the cost of freedom, the agony of fighting for truth and the ugliness of evil desires that continue this battle in the physical and spiritual realm. We also know, that fight is necessary if we want real peace, and so again, we let go.

In reading the blog written by the mother of an Israeli soldier, I hear my own voice as well. There are many wars in our world, and someones children are soldiers in each one of them. Some are on the side of defending a freedom, others on the side of defending the agenda , most likely , of people they don’t even know or understand. And still there are mothers, waiting, straining for a word from a beloved child, praying for safety and a homecoming.

I am so proud of my son. I am so proud of the sons and daughters who defend of our nation. So to you out there, who are military mothers, a hug and a salute to you. Keep the faith, send the cookies and let’s pray with each other and for each other.

Heavenly Father You are the Creator of all things.

You understand the hearts of men, and the reasons that war is necessary.

We humbly acknowledge , we know not any of it.

Please Lord, Bless the mothers whose children are warriors.

Help us to trust in You, and to give over our fears to your keeping. Help us to have compassion on one another and to share our hearts before You.

Bless the ones who keep the home fires burning, the parents, wives and children of our defenders and hold them in Your Mighty Hand.

Amen

OK, how common is this? "No, I don wanna talk to Daddy!"

January 11, 2009

I am contemplating a small booklet to address an issue that has come up in our own family twice, and I am guessing may have come up in yours. My grandson who is 4, refuses to talk to his deployed Daddy on the phone.

Our granddaughter also did this when he was deployed the first time, and she was about the same age. Now at 7 she can’t wait to talk to her Dad, but our son sure feels bad when his little boy will not talk with him.

Kids need to know that we hear what they are saying ( or not saying!) . When our granddaughter refused, I told her, I knew that she was unhappy about Daddy being gone but that Daddy was very sad not to talk to her. Her job as a military child, was to give him the gift of hearing her voice. This worked ,and she did begin to talk with him.

I can think of some reason the kids do this, maybe they do not want to feel what they feel, when they talk to Daddy and he is still gone.

Maybe they think, as our granddaughter confessed, that they will force Daddy to come home if they won’t talk.

A conversion about the realities of the military…that Dad is not choosing to be gone, but is required to fulfill his promise to defend our nation, can at least let them know it is not them.

Helping kids to connect with the deployed parent as much as is possible is the best thing to do. Keep the parents photo readily available, talk about him or her, make a homecoming box (see blog on homecoming box) and talk about things that will be shared once the parent returns home.

Kids do need to offer the gift of gab to their deployed parent, and though you cannot make them do it, you can let them know that it is hurtful behavior.

Help them by giving them things to say, after all if dad has been gone awhile , the child may not know what to say. Tell them that when the absent parent calls, they just need to say “I love you Daddy” and be content with that at first. Encourage them , when something great happens at daycare or elsewhere, say something like:”wow, lets tell dad about that when he calls next!” Then, you can remind them of what they wanted to tell, when he does call.

Don’t indulge the feelings of the little ones on this issue. Yes, they have a hard time, but it is never to early to help them see that their choices effect everyone around them, and they can choose to be compassionate helpers. Their job of giving love and encouragement to others is in their power!

I would love to hear if you have ever had to deal with this. What did you do? Did it help?